When it comes to achieving your goals, it can seem like the majority of the obstacles in your way are external. You want to go into business for yourself… but the economy isn’t in great shape. You want to improve your health… but you don’t have enough free time from work in which to do it. You want to focus on your career in the long-term… but the short-term is demanding all of your time and energy.
Often, the obstacles as presented above are entirely legitimate. No one can control the external forces around us; the demands that just getting through every day places on our ability to focus our mind. However, there is one potential issue that is holding you back more than all of those external forces combined: you.
The blight of confidence issues
The primary reason that people hold themselves back is due to lack of confidence. We live in a world that constantly tells us to believe in ourselves, love ourselves, and be proud of ourselves-- but these sentiments can often feel like little but empty words. Low self-confidence has the ability to undermine everything that we do.
Successful people seize chances
Studies have shown that people who consider themselves to be “lucky” are not actually blessed with a supernatural ability to attract good fortune. Instead, they -- as an old saying extols -- make their own luck. They are risk-takers; chance-grabbers; opportunity-graspers-- they throw themselves into situations that then succeed. They’re not lucky, they just have sufficient self-confidence to seize an opportunity when they see one.
A lack of self-confidence makes you less likely to seize the opportunities or throw yourself into a project because some part of you is always convinced that failure is imminent. You might have the best business idea in the world, then suddenly doubt yourself and your instincts when you’re in the process of applying for a fast business loan to get your idea off the ground. You may think you deserve a promotion at work, but suddenly, your voice fails you when it comes to asking for one. These problems are all rooted in your self-confidence, and no inspirational quote is going to fix this.
Healing your self-confidence
If you truly want to achieve your goals, then you have to learn to ease the way you view yourself. Restoring and improving your self-confidence is not easy; it’s a long journey to self-acceptance and, ultimately, self-actualization.
If you want to take steps to healing your self-confidence, here are five simple ways to get started:
- Cut down the negative self-talk.
- Repeat affirmations to your reflection on a daily basis.
- Keep a positivity journal, where you only note the good things you have done or experienced.
- See a therapist for in-depth exploration of your psyche.
- Learn to meditate.
When you acknowledge that you may be preventing yourself from reaching your goals, you have in fact realized something positive: you’re the one in control. With work and determination, you can overcome the internal obstacles that have prevented you're fulfilling your potential-- and build the life for yourself that you truly want.